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　　II．Read
   Read the following passages. Underline the important viewpoints while reading.
　　1. Unfair Criticism
    Stuart is a typical sixteen-year-old boy who experienced and suffered from the criticism of an alcoholic parent it seemed to Stuart the only thing his father ever had to say to him was. "You haven’t got a brain in your head." Stuart was a sophomore in high school. It was true he was a poor student, or what his dean called an "underachiever". Even toughs Stuart knew he was an underachiever, he would have liked to hear his father say, just once, something else when he thought home his report card other than his usual, "You haven’t got a brain in your head."
    Stuart was determined to prove to his father he did have a rain in his head. Stuart studied very hard. Some nights it was difficult for him to concentrate on his homework because he could hear his parents bickering in the next room.
    "You forgot to pay the mortgage again. The bank is fed up."
    "How many times can a person smash up a car? I’m surprised they haven’t taken your license away!"
    "If you wouldn’t drink so much..."
    Stuart didn’t like the bickering, and wondered if his parents might separate. He wondered, too because his father was so forgetful about paying the bills, if they might lose their home.
    He kept telling himself that if he studied hard, maybe, by some miracle, things would get better at home.
    Stuart’s determination to concentrate on his school work, in spite of the bickering and worries at home, paid off. His next report card showed a marked improvement. There was even a personal note of praise from his dean written on the report card.
    Proudly Stuart put the report card on his father’s desk. Stuart felt happier than he had felt in a long time. He knew that his father could only be pleased with such a report, but more important, maybe now his father would realize that he was intelligent and would start paying some attention to him. Stuart could remember when his father used to go to ballgames and movies with him. Who knew? Maybe things would go back to the way they used to be. Stuart would offer to get a part-time job to help pay off some of the bills. He thought that might lessen some of the arguing at home and keep the family from breaking up. He would let his father know that he was old enough to understand things weren’t always easy at the office.
    When Stuart’s father came home and saw the report, he said without any hesitation, "Well, well, who did the work for you? I know you don’t have the brains to do it!"
    Stuart was stunned. All that work for nothing! He wouldn’t be surprised if his father not only thought he was stupid but hated him, too.
    Stuart would not have been as hurt if he had only known his father was tied up in his own miserable feelings. This kept him from recognizing what Stuart had accomplished in school.
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　　2. Uses of Criticism
    While some of us have a tendency to disbelieve or to minimize the good things people say about us, others among us have a tendency to hold a protective web around ourselves in defense against criticism. One workshop participant said, "I confuse the issue by getting logical in the face of threatening reactions. Sometimes I act helpless so others will stop the criticism". Early in the workshop experience he had received more negative than positive reactions. While he was fearful of criticism, he found that he had courted it, hoping that he could learn how to handle it and overcome his fear.
    We may court negative reactions for other reasons. A therapy group member regarded criticism as more useful than compliments, and criticism is what he often got - not because he asked for it directly, but because of his detached manner, as though he were sitting in judgment of others. Moreover, his tendency to qualify and hedge his opinions and feelings until they had no meaning often brought down their displeasure stoically, as though it strengthened him. He never openly criticized other members, however.
    Still another member, who claimed that "criticism is the stuff that we grow on", gave others criticism galore so they could improve and, in his words, "not appear in a negative light in the future," This member came across as using his ostensible concern for the growth of others as an excuse to criticize and attack them.
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　　3. Is It Right to Withhold One’s Reactions to Others?
    It is not uncommon for us to withhold our reactions to others. We may hold back compliments for fear of embarrassment to them and to ourselves. We may hold back criticism for fear of being disliked or considered unfair, or for fear of hurting another person. Reactions given inconsiderately may indeed hurt others. On the other hand, some of us are inclined to withhold our reactions from others while at the same of us are inclined to withhold our reactions from others while at the same time we honestly prefer than they not hold back theirs from us. We may have two different rules. The first one may be: If we ask others for candid reactions to our behavior, to something we have done or plan to do, we want them to tell us straight, including the negative with the positive. The second rule may be: If someone else asks us for similar reactions, we are inclined to hold back or gloss over the negative and embroider the positive.
　　4. Criticism Is a Kind of Demand on Those Criticized
    As children, many of us got a great deal of criticism and , as a result, learned a variety of patterns for coping with it. marya had apparently received little criticism, butt knowing that she was not perfect and deserved what other children got, developed her own patterns of self-judgment and censure. Being judged, whether we are underestimated or overestimated, usually implies a demand, subtle or direct, that we change. If others do not demand change, we may feel the need to demand it of ourselves.
    Reactions that are relatively free from attempts to change or discredit us, given by someone who cares fro us, and with the intention of letting us know what impressions we are making, may be easier to take. If, however, our usual reaction is to defend ourselves, even mild criticism or impressions given gently without demands that we change may play havoc our defensive structure and become difficult to handle.
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　　5. How to Handle Criticism

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